About the Event:
March 2021 marks the 25th anniversary since losing Patti. 
We will be sharing all the beautiful memories and love that Patti has given us!  This is also an opportunity to recognize and bring together all those who love and miss Patti (siblings, friends, nieces, nephews, step siblings, etc.). 
Please feel free to come with a story; either a funny one, a heartfelt one, or both.  You are welcome to bring an item to visually share (just hold up to your screen), or you can attend to just witness and observe.  Your presence and attendance is so appreciated!  

About the Facilitator:
Brenda Morrison is the Director of the Centre for Restorative Justice and an Associate Professor in the School of Criminology at Simon Fraser University. She is a social psychologist with teaching, research and field experience in outdoor education, governance and justice. She completed her PhD at the Australian National University.

Who is Invited:
This is an open invitation to all of Patti’s relations…whether you knew her, you know someone who knew her, or you are curious what made Patti so special!  *Also, please feel free to share this invite with your family, friends or someone who may benefit from attending.
Patricia Grace Ducharme (Patti) was born in Vancouver on December 18, 1955 to Marion and Ed with siblings: Lorraine, Doug and Teresa.  She was married to Paul Ducharme for 23 years and was a loving Mom to her four children: Nicoline, Jason, Christopher and Leanna, and a half-son, Jeremy.  Her loving nature and kindness was appreciated by all who knew her; she had a loving connection to everyone hshe knew including her immediate and extended relatives, family, friends and co-workers.
Sadly, Patti was tragically taken from us on March 22nd, 1996.  March 25th is the day she was discovered and the day we found out.  After being incarcerated for 25 years this month, Brock continues to serve time in prison for his lack of attachment to his crimes, and his denial state.
Our family has found great strength and healing through the closeness of each other and in honoring our grief and communicating her love and sharing our memories.  This is the first time we have held a public event in Patti’s honor, and March 28 is the Libra Full Moon which represents healing energy.

Memories & Quotes:

Lorraine: Your Mom and I had a great line dance for this song!!

Mom used to sing this song in the motorhome – I remember all of us kids singing along on our road trip!! ~Ducharme

Great memories.  So wonderful to hear Patti’s voice! ~Brenda

Wow!!!  you look so much like your beautiful Mama!!  xo ~Judy

So special to have these videos. ~Jane and Fraser

Such precious memories,  Honoured to hear them;  thank you for sharing. ~Carol

Such wonderful memories from you all ..helps me imagine your mom. ~Jane & Fraser

What wonderful memories Leanna! Love hearing about your mama. She did a really good job with you all. What a lovely woman~ ~Christina 

Wonderful to see Patti so well remembered! ~Damian

Such beautiful memories and stories,  Patti will live on in all our hearts and in all your lives. ~Carol

Tim Degenhardt: Thanks for inviting us. We loved your mom and all of you kids.  What a nice evening to remember her.~Tim (Degenhardt)

My heart breaks with yours and it was truly an honour to be here this evening to learn more about your mom ♥️ ~Rebecca

Vulnerability is the new strength!!  xoxo
What a beautiful sacred space I have had the honour to be in

My heart feels filled with gratitude and grace xoxoxoxo

I see where your warmth is fuelled and how love perseveres. When I hear the words describing your mom as carefree, loving,generous… I would describe you that way as well.  ~Michele

I am also very honoured to have been invited and to learn more about Pretty Patti, and the family. Thank you to everyone. ~Lily

Thank you everyone for letting Ducharme invite us to this family event.  We both feel honoured to be here with you. ~Bethanny & Greg

Leanna, thank you for including us in this tribute to your mom.  It was wonderful to hear the beautiful stories and songs; we love you all. ~Paulette

What I take away from this evening is a deep sense of love amongst this special community.  Chris has always been so warm, welcoming, and engaging and it is apparent to me now that his character stems from his beautiful mama. Thanks for including me. Much love and prayers to you all. ~Rebecca

Thank you for the invite to hear all these stories. My parents shared how they curled with Paul and Patti while living in Devon and I always love to say that Leanna and I have been friends since “before we were born”. My mom has shared about going to the strippers with Patti at the Key West Inn in Devon and my only memory, which is silly, is being picked up by Patti at daycare and going to their home for a sleepover. As Christina had said, Leanna has always had a positive aura about her the whole 35 years I have known her and I have always been welcomed by the whole family which I can see by all these beautiful stories has been passed along from their beautiful mother. Love you!! ~Michelle

I’m so sad I logged on too late at the very end. I would have loved to hear more about Patti, someone I wish I could have met. What a wonderful idea. Thank you for including us ❤️. ~Breanna

Thank you Ducharme, Nicoline, Leanna and everyone – this was heartwarming, nostalgic and inspirational! ~Milan

Leanna and her whole family has been an incredible gift –  their strength through this searing loss and persistent loving nature has been an inspiration. Hearing the beautiful stories tonight has been such an amazing insight into the heart of the family. Their beautiful Mum ❤️ praying continued growth and honouring of her. ~Roxy

Ducharme: I’m in tears.

Patti would be so proud of all of you guys! You’re are all so amazing! ~Mike

Got me all choked up over here ❤️. Your mom is surely proudly looking down with a heart full of love and happiness. ~Breanna

Thank you so much everyone for the beautiful memories of Grandma Patti. It was so refreshing to learn more about her light and warmth that she’s shared with all of you and passed through the generations. I feel so honoured and blessed to be a part of such a supportive and loving family. Good night y’all ❤️ ~Brittany

Thank you again everyone.  You’ve made Patti alive to me through you all. ~Bethanny & Greg

Thanks to all of you, this is the best memorial service yet!! Mom would be so grateful for you all!!!
~Ducharme

Leanna, you carry the spirit of your mother and you are truly a gift to us all; your mother would be so proud!

It was something quite special – thank you for including us. ~Greg and Bethany

I am not aware of commemorations quite like this and think it is a lovely idea. I have been to a couple of Zoom funeral services lately and think how lucky we are to be able to gather to mark these events. Your celebration takes it to another level. I’m certain it would have been an amazing evening.  ~Lorna